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Why Losing a Chess Game Hurts So Much


Have you ever wondered why losing a chess game hurts so much? It's not just you—many chess amateurs also struggle with big psychological swings caused by their chess results. In this blog post, I'll share what makes each loss in chess so painful and how to limit the downsides.

Why We Hate Losing in Chess

Losing in chess is painful for several reasons. First, we hate feeling like we've wasted our time. A loss means that we've spent hours preparing for nothing. Second, we hate feeling stupid. A loss often means that we've made a silly mistake that cost us the game. Third, we hate feeling powerless. A loss reminds us that we're not in control of our own destiny. Finally, we hate feeling humiliated. A loss can be a public embarrassment, especially if it's to someone who is weaker than us.

How to Limit the Downsides of Losing

There are several things you can do to limit the downsides of losing in chess. First, accept that losses are part of the game. If you can't accept losses, then you'll never be able to improve as a player. Second, learn from your losses. Study your mistakes and figure out what you could have done differently. Third, take a break after a loss. Give yourself some time to recover mentally and emotionally before trying to play again. And fourth, remember that winning isn't everything. If you're enjoying the process of playing chess, then a loss doesn't have to ruin your day.


Losing in chess is never fun, but it's important to remember that losses are part of the game. By accepting losses, learning from your mistakes, taking a break after a loss, and remembering that winning isn't everything, you can limit the downsides of losing and continue enjoying the game of chess.

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